The reason I am writing this, is that I am an ‘INDIAN GIRL’, so I really wanted to share a few points, which I have experienced, and a few that I observed in our society.
It’s a myth that women and men are being treated equally in our society. Just by allowing women the front few seats in a bus or by not allowing her to carry heavy loads you are not actually giving her the equal opportunities and rights. That’s not equality! In fact it shows that women are not capable of being strong. But, one cannot even deny the fact that if those facilities are not provided then men will forget the very existence of women. It is tricky to decide whether the provisions made for women are to extemporize them or to vitiate their self-confidence.
Right from her childhood, a girl has to face the detriments of being a “feminine”. Starting from what to wear and what not to wear to how to behave in the society. Why doesn’t the society understand that it’s not the dress of a girl nor her behaviour that tempts a stalker or a rapist, it’s the bad intentions which always threatens the safety of a woman. In the biggest democracy of the world, the girl is blamed for her rape. The rapist are held less responsible or sometimes, to our disbelief, simply set free. Here, the character of a girl is judged on the basis of her attire whereas the character of a male is never well scrutinized. A female has to think a million times before uploading her picture on any social media, as she’s always worried of the stalkers, who are, more often than not, disguised as friends or colleagues. When something goes wrong, the society starts blaming the girl. Why is that? Why is the stalker or the peeping tom never questioned?
India is a country where more money is spent on the weddings of daughters than their education. People want their wives or daughter-in-laws to be well educated (sometimes), fair, beautiful, lean and wealthy (so that they can demand more dowry), whereas just being a male has made him eligible for marriage. Why the difference? If a woman is unmarried in her thirties, the so called man’s world starts to distrust her personality and eventually end up blaming her or the parents for the wrong upbringing. Why can’t the decision of what to do with her life, be taken by her? The variance in treating the two genders is felt.
It’s fine for a male to stay out of home at 1a.m but not fine if a female wants to go out after 8p.m. There are few cases where a girl’s character is grilled just because she has too many guys as her friends but a guy is never suspected to be wrong for having too many girls as his friends. Why?
Ironically, a place where goddess are worshiped, is also the same place where female foetuses are being aborted or a new born baby girl is being murdered. People in other countries are fighting for the rights and safety of transgenders whereas India is still struggling to provide safety for its female citizens.
Women are targeted by perverts, being sexually harassed by the so-called ‘strong’ and under the threat of eve-teasing every day. So many cases of domestic violence, women being the victims, are reported and many more still go unreported or are simply ignored and forgotten. Every year we notice that, in all board exams girls have highest number of passing percentage whereas still in few areas of our country, girl education is of no priority. India, a country which already has had a woman president and a prime minister, is still a country where the society doubts on the capability of woman power. Why?
There is very less effort evident, when it comes to changing this situation. A change where both men and women are actually treated equal, a change where women safety is of utmost priority. From this article I do not mean that all men are ill-treating women. There are many men who respect and care for the women around them, be it their wives or their colleagues. And I do appreciate them. Let’s change the idea of a man’s world to everybody’s world. Every human being has the right to live and the Indian constitution also gives the right to freedom to all of its citizens, not just the males.
Let me remind you “Women are not born to do things which men can do, women are born to do the things which men can’t”.
—Just an ordinary GIRL with some extra ordinary thoughts!